Sometimes,the inevitable happens, and you find yourself in a bit of a lovetriangle. Choosing between two phenomenal guys can feel reallydifficult, but there are some exercises you can do to figure outwhich one is really the guy for you, without hurting anyone’sfeelings.
1.Consider the positive qualities of each guy. Is he open-minded ordoes he have prejudices? Does he make you laugh? Is he interested inthings other than his own ego? These are important questions to ask.
2.Think about how he affects you and makes you feel. You want a guythat’s not too hard on you, but challenges you. One that brings outthe best in you and compliments you in a meaningful and not genericway.
3.Consider possible negative qualities. Has the guy ever lied to you orbeen manipulative? Does he talk about his ex-girlfriend a little toomuch?
4.Don’t rush your decision – a relationship is nothing to make snapjudgements over. Ideally, one of the guys will help you make thedecision easier by doing something incredible or horrible, and bigdecisions take time.
5.Instead of asking your friends who they like more, ask who they thinkis better for you, creating a better suggestion of who they woulddate rather than who they think you should. And be open when theygive you advice instead of being overly stubborn.
6.Bring up as many of your interests as possible with both of them. Ifone of them seems to align with yours harmoniously, and the otherseems to go off on a tangent, this can help guide your decision.
7.When you make your decisions, don’t flip flop. Flirting with theother dude and hanging out alone with him are boundary breakers, andsend mixed signals to the boo you did choose.
8.Even though you might be into both of them, be sure that you’re notwearing rose-colored glasses and overlooking red flags that youshouldn’t’ This can include controlling behavior, negativeattitudes, or moving too fast physically.
9.How is he in his own life? Does he treat his family and parents withrespect, and give back to his community? Lifestyle hints and how hedeals with bad days or unexpected speed bumps will help show you ifhe can make it through the ups and downs, or isn’t strong enough.
10.Do you ever feel like you’re being unfaithful when you’re withone of them? This might direct you to the guy you’re subconsciouslyinto if you’re on a date with one and feel like you’re supposedto be with the other.
11.Think of who you wish texted you more often. When you phone beeps, ifyou instinctively find that you want one name to show up more thanthe other, that may be the suitor that’s meant to be with you.
12. When all else fails, go with your gut. At the end of the day, it’s easy to overthink everything and make your final decision even more difficult. Make sure you’ve considered past mistakes that you learned from.
